Our First Wedding Anniversary----Jan 27, 2005

Today is our first wedding anniversary(Jan 27,2005). As every couple we had plans to celebrate it in our own way,together. But he is in Ireland and I am in India, now. So we thot that, if God allows, we would make our second wedding anniversary as the first one (we can also gain, one year ).

My husband is one of a kind.(yea, I know, everybody is.) I don't know, if theres anyone, like him, who can be so unselfish(no, he didn't give me anything to say this ). As I got him after going through , two very stormy relationships and a very bad disc injury which almost took away my career, I know his value, more. May be, if it were not for them, I would have taken him too much for granted.
Thanks to my past & my accident , that now, I know , what HE is NOT!

 

Some things he did for me: 

[1] He quit his job in London, when they refused to give him leave on January and came back to marry me!

 

[2] He went against his family, when he decided not to make me wait any longer, and to get married earlier than his elder brother.

 

[3] After marriage he had only 1000/- INR, self-confidence and me as his only assets, left !!!

 

[4] From our wedding-night, till today, in the middle of night , he has to make frequent runs to the kitchen, to fetch me hot-water bag, for my 2.5yr old disc-inflammation! ('cos I will be there moaning in pain, next to him.)

 

[5] He will be the only husband who admitted his wife to hospital for pain-killing Epidural injection , on the morning, just after marriage.(I had told him earlier, about my injury).

 

[6] And he will be the only son, who didn't tell about his wife's disc injury and hospitalization to his parents, cos of the fear that it may cause drift between two families! (his family didn't know about my injury, then).

 

[7] When his family thot that he was staying at my home, from the day after marriage, he was waiting for me, outside the operation theatre! 

 

[8] He always found ways to make me lay down whenever we travelled in bus or train, during our long journeys, which were inevitable.(long distance travel in sitting position, is a big NO-NO from my doctors, to me).

 

[9] Even in public roads, bus or train, (in India or in Ireland) , he would never hesitate to rub my lower-back for 20-30 mts continuously , when numbness & pain creep into my back and then to legs, due to the strain, in walking! (in India, this act had invited a lot of questioning stares!)

 

[10] When I asked him, why did u marry a girl, who walked like the alphabet " Z " (when in pain, I walked slantingly), he told me "for the same reason, u married me, who had neither good looks nor money nor job!".

 

Now, after one year, sometimes we quarrel like cats and dogs...Our fights are so furious that people who see us fight think, that we would get divorce, the next moment (his friend thought so). But after some 10 mts, he will come and hug me saying "Life is beautiful" (he has his own funny way of saying that!) and I wouldn't be able to stop laughing. Other times, after we quarrel, I decide, I wont talk to him, at all...but then he will come and talk to me as if nothing had happened. And then, I would be in doubt, whether we really quarrelled or not!

 

The major differences b/w us are:

[1] He reads only tech books(and hates fiction) , while I read only fiction (and hate tech ones).

[2] He hates vegetables, while I eat them raw!

[3] He loves fish, while even the smell of fish, makes me vomit!

[4] He loves home-made food, while I love eating-out.(he eats from home and then takes me out for dinner )

[5] He hates dogs, (cos of a childhood dog-bite), while I love dogs!

[6] He loves cats, while I hate them to the utmost (I.e., why may be we fight,so fiercely)

[7] He is one among 8 kids, while I am a single child! (which makes me more selfish !)

 

And those which cause more trouble are:

[8] He is very shrewd & diplomatic with others, while I am very straightforward. (this cause more enemies to me and lots of friends to him).

[9] He spends a lot (on others) , while I am a very big miser....

 

This is my "extremist" husband, who convinced me, that I am completely able and strong to conquer my dreams and passions. We both have entirely different goals and dreams in our life. Our outlook, our values, our background are all completely different. Still he wholly supports my goal, and gives me the confidence to chase my dreams with passion. He is a friend, companion and mentor to me. 

 

After much turmoil in life, God gave me a gift which I had always wished,for ! . It was wrapped beautifully with my name written on it, "To Swathi,.. with love, from God" and that gift is my husband Sajeev. And I can only say "Thank you God", in return!!

 

Courtesy our wedding pic: Chandra , for framing our photo, so beautifully(he sent me 16 photos, I had a difficult time choosing)!

 

Courtesy my pic: Balaji , for "feathering" my photo,& for teaching me that!(he even sent me notes on how to use photoshop!)

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