Why are some like this?

Its such a mystery to me, sometimes why some people think in a particular way, I mean different from the majority. Some of those thoughts can have good effect on others as well as for themselves, while some wont be not so good in their effects on others.

It was our friend’s kid’s first birthday and they arranged a small party. We are not party animals, mainly because of the work schedule we are in. On weekends, I just want to be at home, in its warmth, with a cup of hot chocolate, watching TV. That’s my idea of heaven. And I cant be blamed if I prefer indoors, at this extreme -6 deg Celsius outside temperature. So even if my husband is working on weekends, it doesn’t affect me. One advantage of working outside home everyday is that you want to spend every free time at your home.

Ok. So we went to this kiddies party and I think there were some 8 to 9 kids, and all were toddlers, below 2 yrs of age. They were all running and screaming and banging into doors and each other and I didn’t know how time passed, watching them. It was amazing the way they socialised, each one so different from other! They were from India, Malaysia, S.Africa, Ireland, and from former USSR.

So when it was time to go, I didn’t find my husband and his friends there. So we (his colleague’s wife and myself) got worried and I called him on his cell. She didn’t have her cell so she was also waiting for my answer about where her husband was. Then we came to know that they have gone out and will be back in some 10 minutes. They came back after some 5 minutes. Soon one guy (we were seeing him for the first time, he was our friend’s friend‘s friend) came to me and told “ What do you think, that some one will kidnap your husband? Why do you call, when he hangs out with us? You know what, you need a kid, to keep your mind off your husband!”. and with those words he thrust his 1 yr old baby girl into my hands. He spoke to me in Malayalam. (he is not an Indian but he knows a lot of languages!). I was shocked at first, but his baby girl was so cute that I didn’t want to remember his words when I carried her.

I didn’t want to reply him or complain about him to our host and ruin their baby’s birthday party. Sometimes keeping your mouth shut saves a lot of unwanted attention towards you. After all, the place was full of toddlers. But his words actually enhanced my doubt about the way some people think differently.

One year back, when my cousin was about to have a baby, I sent him my congrats. And in reply he told “swathi, she (his wife)was getting into my nerves with her nagging. I got so pissed off that having a baby was the only way out. She didn’t have a job and if she had a baby, her hands will be full, and she may leave me on my own. “. I got the shock of my life, hearing this from my very own cousin. It was the first time, I was hearing that “logical reason” for having a baby. Of course with his character, I wasn’t expecting an “I love babies” answer but this one, “to keep my wife occupied, so that she wont bother me??” sounded “pathetic” with a capital ‘P’ to me!!! And today, this man’s words was a gentle reminder to me that “such school of thoughts” do exist!!!

My only answer to him would be “Even if she has 10 kids, I don’t think any woman will stop worrying about her husband, when she doesn’t know where he went. And yea, I think I will be one among them, too!”

Even now I am thinking, why do some people (including my cousin) think so differently? What if his wife came to know that he told me that his baby was going to be a freedom-from-nagging-wife-equipment for him? Some people really are p-a-t-h-e-t-I-c!

Note: It was true that his wife didn't even ask a question about him, when we were worrying about our husbands!